Co-parenting: How to Thrive

One thing I pride myself on is being able to move forward as co-parents after divorce. It has NOT been easy at times. Anyone in this situation has hurt, betrayal and wounds that take time to heal. We were no different.

From the time we went our separate ways, we did our best to keep things cordial, even friendly in front of our girls. Phew, like I said it's not always been easy and I've had to become a great actress at times. It did take me years to be able to look my ex in the eye again-but I have to be honest-if that's what it takes to be on the same bleachers at the softball game...then avoid eye contact! Simply put, do whatever you have to do to create normalcy for the kids.

One piece of advice I received from a therapist is to really think about who I am-and who I want to be. Do NOT let someone else impact your energy, your vibe, your persona. Don't choose to let the past anger and bitterness into that aura of who you are today.

I clutched onto this advice like my grandmothers pearls. And I still do. So anytime the past emotions creep back in, I remember; only I control my energy. Nobody else can unless I let them.  

And six years later our kiddos are doing great. Six years later we have done a lot of trial and error in communication styles, parenting schedules and logistics. If you are someone struggling with a positive co-parenting philosophy to move forward, reach out to me today. 

It CAN get better. Having a well-thought-out plan makes a thriving co-parenting relationship all the more obtainable.